How to Talk Dirty To a Guy & 36 Secrets to Arouse Him with the Sexiest Words

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I’m not saying there is anything wrong with simple statements like “You look so sexy right now,” and “Yes, I love that.” If you are feeling nervous about adding the vulnerability of being naked in front of your partner while talking dirty, then try it outside the bedroom to begin with. Slip a note to your partner at dinner or whisper something suggestive into their ears when you are together outside. You can even send them a text when you’re both at work, alluding to what’s going to happen later. You don’t need to go in deep to channel your inner porn star. It’s not about saying many explicit words at a time.

The benefits of dirty talking

As Bethany Ricciardi, sex expert at Too Timid explains, people often also get turned on by hearing that a partner has these steamy thoughts about them. We want to help remind each other about the important playful elements in bed and create the anticipation between each other. An “mmm,” “oh baby,” or similar moan-inspired sound will encourage your partner to continue what they’re saying or doing.

How do you know what to say during sex?

Every time they were intimate, Karen was faking her orgasms. Last month, The Idol mercifully came to an end. But it turned out to be a plotless montage of boobs, chain-smoking, and disturbingly romanticized domestic abuse.

This category of dirty talk involves referencing past sexcapades as a way to build anticipation and arousal. To do so, you could say something like, “Remember when you bent me over the couch the other week? I was dripping wet.” Dr. Tara particularly recommends this method as a means of sexting, too. Overall being able to talk dirty to your man will make him feel more attracted to you. Dirty talk can be so arousing to man, so it’s kind of waste if you don’t practice this skill.

Use these 20 hot, dirty talk phases to make him crazy over you. One way to build confidence with sex talk is to start dirty talking to yourself. Dr. Tara has her clients create a positive sexual mantra, and then say it to themselves each day.

So describing exactly what you plan to do to your partner before you actually do it helps to build up sexual tension. And this can start long before you reach the bedroom—whisper your dirty plans in their ear while you’re out together at an event, sitting on the subway, or doing the laundry, for example. Since you’ll have them thinking about it from that moment on, they’ll likely be increasingly turned on until the moment you make good on your promise. Basically you’ll be just initiating foreplay very far in advance.

• You may also be in a situation where you’ve naturally started talking dirty with someone, but you never really discussed it explicitly or established clear parameters.
• If this is your first-time dirty talking to your man then we understand why you’re nervous.
• All of the dirty talking phrases we’ll share with you are based on your own sexual confidence.
• That said, in the event that you hit a snag during dirty talk, remember that sexy time doesn’t necessarily need to stall out unless someone becomes really uncomfortable.

Start off by texting something casual and try to figure out if he’s lazing and has the time to text you for an hour or so without any interruptions. We all have fantasies, but not everyone talks about them. Tell him about one of your favorite fantasies, and tell him that you want him to make it a reality for you.

Try taking note of at least one phrase from each section that feels fun for you, so that you have something spicy to pepper in at every step along the way. Before you’re even getting sexual, use dirty talk to inject excitement into the day or week leading up to your next rendezvous. But in any case, starting by addressing dirty talk with your partner directly can make you feel much more comfortable. So, it’s often hard to switch gears into the sexual space.

• The more you do it, the more comfortable you will become with igniting his (and your own) sexuality.
• Whether you’re role-playing or just adding color commentary to your sex life, dirty talk is a kind of performance.
• Instead, try something like, “I want to lick your nipples until you’re leaking precum.”
• Right, fervent communication can be a massive turn-on for everyone.
• It truly does shift the entire dynamic of your sex life in such an easy and sustainable way.
• Bear in mind that everybody responds differently to language, and so while a word might be a real turn-on for one person, it could be jarring for another.

This is why erotic books like 50 Shades of Gray are infamous smash hits among female readers. Meanwhile, guys are dominating porn usage because their arousal has more directly visual triggers. I’ll walk you through the things to generally avoid, include, and steer clear of altogether, in order for you to dominate the world of dirty talk. Dirty talk is an often overlooked but very powerful aspect of increasing sexual tension. It activates the imagination, supercharges sexual polarity, and adds a steamy air of liberation to your naked shenanigans. In the bedroom, when someone says “Talk dirty to me baby…” the hopefully-soon-to-be dirty talker suddenly freezes up like a soaking wet roll of toilet paper thrown out of an igloo in Antartica.

You might be completely confused and lost about how to “talk dirty,” but for some reason you think “talking dirty” is what men need, secretly crave and desperately want. When you’re thinking of dirty questions to ask your man, you don’t have to ask specifically about his turn-ons. Asking about his turn-offs will be just as beneficial to you. Truth-or-dare, 21 questions, “guess what kind of sexy lingerie I’m wearing,” there are many fun, flirty, and naughty games the two of you could play. Or let your imagination run wild and think of your own.